We do our best to keep everything together, to keep our lives straight and keep ourselves happy. More often than not, we lean on other people and look to them for help.
For a good portion of the last year, my boyfriend and I have used Skype as a way to maintain our relationship. There’s a fair amount of distance between our hometowns and Skype has been our crutch as far as being able to see each other. Thinking about it made me realize that we’re a lot more privileged than couples in our position used to be.
I always think about the first time we Skyped after we met through our college. I couldn’t, for the life of me, figure out how to turn the video on. So, it ended up being like a regular phone call on his end, except I could see him. He sat down with his laptop, a mug of milk, and talked to a screen with nothing on it. It was adorable. Every time I think of the first time, I smile. I knew then that I’d end up falling in love with him, but I never thought that Skype would become a huge chunk of what held us together when we were apart. Nothing’s ever ideal when you’re young, but that doesn’t mean that you can’t make a situation perfect. Some of the happiest parts of my days when I’m home are when I can sit down with my laptop, open Skype, and see his face on the screen.
Back before Facetime, Skype, and other forms of video calling, long distance relationships were confined to phone calls. You may not have talked to your significant other for days on end. Now, we have a choice between different forms of video calls, texting, regular phone calls, etc. Even when we’re apart, we have the choice to see each other. It’s not the same as it would be in person, but it’s enough.